On today’s show Mark discusses how The Church is being impacted by the culture, the need for men to grow up and be real men, mother-in-law issues, the value of women mentoring women, jumping to divorce rather than using separation to help solve marriage problems, the power of consequences, teens in sex ed classes, and adoption.

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Mark and Debbie open the show with a new survey about the feminized atmosphere at church and what men like and dislike about church. Mark breaks down the different things many churches do that men cant stand.

Later on the show, Mark and Debbie discuss step-families, dating, focusing on your children and God and not another relationship after divorce. Mark also touches on Christians watching rated R movies, media influences and the real reasons for divorce.

On today’s show Mark discusses the book Hooked: New Science on How Casual Sex is Affecting Our Children, women being his wife–not his mother, not fixating on what you want in marriage, not letting your past dictate your future, the importance of getting mentoring in your marriage struggles, how to handle a separation in your marriage, and the importance of women asking for what they want.

On the show Mark and Debbie talk about an interesting article from Bella Online,  How to Say I’m Sorry. They chat about forgiveness, the different ways men and women deal with shame and the various types of apologies.

E-mails on the show today spark a discussion surrounding sex; having a realistic view of sex, making sex a priority, and meeting your spouse’s sexual needs. Also on the show, Mark tackles a family issue and when others should get involved, a decisive woman dealing with a passive man, and what to do when your wife wears revealing clothing.

Mark and Debbie breakdown a new study that discusses marriage and boredom, and the affect it has over time. After the study, Mark addresses the importance of women respecting their husbands and how to get your spouse to read the bible and pray with you. Mark gives advice to a wife concerned about her husband’s health problem and the affect it’s having on their marriage.

Mark and Debbie open the show will a story about a new service being offered to teens that allows them to ask a doctor questions about sex through text messaging.

Mark and Debbie continue the show with an e-mail about the importance of a male role model in the home and wanting to date after a divorce, but before the kids are out of the house. Then Mark goes after a young couple that is struggling to remain sexually pure, a young man with a porn addiction, and the misguided advice that many Christian counselors give.

To open the show Mark and Debbie talk about South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford’s justification of his affair and how he found his ’soul mate.’

Mark and Debbie get to an e-mail from a new mom whose sex drive has returned but she can’t regain her husbands attention and catches him masturbating after denying her sex. The sex talk continues with an e-mail from a wife who is faced with her husbands alarming new requests in the bedroom. After the sex topic, Mark and Debbie get to an e-mail dealing with a couple’s financial trouble, who’s to blame and how to stop the spending.

A man who’s not ready to get married, is upset about the timeline his girlfriend is imposing and shares his concerns about getting married. Mark provides direction on how to change the narcissistic direction of our society, and the spiritual renewal that our county needs.  A wife has discovered that her high profile husband is struggling with perscription drugs, and needs direction.

A woman e-mails the show who has been in marriage counseling for over a year and has been experiencing physical abuse in her marriage, she has moved out and now wants a divorce, while her husband wants to work things out.

A man shares his frustration with his wife who won’t stop talking, a women has discovered that her husband has been stealing from his employer, and a man who justifies masturbating because his wife is not interested in having sex more than twice a month.

After the poll, Mark and Debbie talk about end times and the state of our country. Mark and Debbie get an update on an e-mail from yesterday about a husband who left for his wife for his18 year old girlfriend but doesn’t want a divorce. A husband struggles to fulfill his sexual needs while his wife deals with a health problem.  Mark explains the importance of pleasing your spouse despite your wants, how to talk to your kids about masturbation and how to help your parents with their marriage problems.

Debbie reads e-mails on the show, one from a new bride that is struggling to get her husband to ‘man up’ and the upsetting situation in their bedroom, a 17 yr. old sharing his opinion about masturbation, and a wife that cant find the words to say to her young son after her husband left to live with his 18 year old girlfriend.

Mark shares his opinion on birth control, and what a woman should do with her husband that she suspects is cheating.

Mark and Debbie get an e-mail about the word ‘consequences’ and why women hate that word so much.  Follow up e-mails spark a discussion about following God’s promptings, how men deal with shame, and whether or not to confess an affair that happened years ago to your spouse. Mark answers a man’s question about masturbation and his struggle with relationships after his marriage ended when his wife has an affiar with their pastor.

Mark answers several questions about masturbation and Debbie provides advice to a woman who is struggling with forgiveness after having an abortion. The two also cover how to learn from other people’s past, dealing with anger issues in a marriage and the type of consequences you need set up when your spouse is recovering from an addiction.

Mark is in North Carolina this morning for a marriage conference at Temple Baptist Church in New Burn. Tickets are still avalible, for more information click here.

Mark and Debbie tackle a heavy e-mail this morning from a woman who recently found out her husband molested their daughter years ago.  Mark shares his compassion and the importance of exposing this situation to the church and authorities so their are consequences.

Another heavy e-mail is discussed on the show about a couple that has been in marriage counseling for over a year and is still struggling with anger issues, boredom, and bitterness. Debbie reads e-mails about rock music, when a male friend is crossing the line, and how a new Christian can help bring a women in the sex trade business to Christ.

Mark and Debbie give advice to a women who is overwhelmed at home and can’t get her husband to help, but he still wants her to make love to him at night. Mark explains how to effectively use consequences to change his behavior right away .

Follow up e-mails reiterate the importance of the dating process, discuss finding the most effective consequence your spouse, changing your spouse’s attitude about sex, and the problem with the old advice to just pray and submit.

Mark and Debbie talk about counseling a couple that lives together but isn’t married, a new wife who is struggling with the idea of a partnership, and how to be a good leader in your home. The 2 also get to an e-mail about boredom in marriage and feeling trapped.

Mark and Debbie get to e-mails on the show regarding a woman who is struggling to get through the day after putting up with her husband’s bad behavior for years. Mark explains the right way to use consequences, dealing with a husband that shares everything with his mother, and newlyweds facing a huge issue with his sexual addiction and inappropriate behavior. Mark shares his opinion about female pastors.

Mark explains the problems with masturbation; the prevalence, the sexual tension it creates in a marriage, and the negative health effects. They also cover forgiveness, submission, and spiritual leadership in the home.

Mark and Debbie get to e-mails on the show regarding a wife who is tired of living with her in-laws, a family that wants to have more children but is concerned about finances and a lady that doesn’t want to call her mother-in-law ‘mom.’ Mark and Debbie also talk about having consequences in a relationship and how people often jump to conclusions about using them before they even try.

Mark and Debbie jump into e-mails on the show. They talk about the importance of marrying someone who is equally yoked and discovering someone’s level of faith during the dating process. A caller joins the show and explains a situation where a woman is very attached to her family and won’t move away and Mark shares his opinion about why a man should never take a woman away from her family.

On the lighter side, check out this cute video of a little girl that Mark played on the show by clicking here.

Mark clarifies his stance on reasons to marry, the success behind early separation, and why sharing your concerns about the growing Muslim faith and the decline in Christianity is not racial issue. He also expresses his frustration with the current Christian community and the role it has played in the declining number of believers.

Debbie ends the show on the lighter side with an e-mail about sex and the struggle one man is having trying to make sure his wife is happy and how parents can politely express their concerns about their son-in-law.

To watch one of Mark’s messages, click here

Here is the video that Mark mentioned during the show today dealing with Muslim Demographics.

On today’s show Mark discusses a study on how strained marriages impact the health of men and women, men’s egos and their need to feel competent, preparing your kids for dating, when women try to fix or change the guy, how women help to create the men they can’t stand, and the three types of Christians.

E-mails on the show today spark a discussion surrounding sex; having a realistic view of sex, making sex a priority, and meeting your spouse’s sexual needs. Also on the show, Mark tackles a family issue and when others should get involved, a decisive woman dealing with a passive man, and what to do when your wife wears revealing clothing.

Mark provides direction for a caller that admits he has been a jerk to his wife. Mark explains the influence friends, lifestyle choices and your environment can have on the way you treat your spouse. After the call, Debbie and Mark talk about marrying someone with a significant amount of financial debt and how to resolve a problem with your husband or wife based on their personality type.

Mark mentions the Flag Page during the show today. If you are interested, click here.

Mark explains the importance of utilizing the biblical principles of discipline in a marriage and the problem with the common advice of  ’shut up and put out.’ Mark also covers the ‘nag factor,’ loving a half-spiritual husband and birth control.

Mark and Debbie also address e-mails during the show dealing with the power of separation and prayer in a struggling marriage, why sharing your past with a potential spouse can be a great thing,  how to still ‘earn points’ for good deeds after being married for several years and God’s view of divorce.

On today’s show Mark discusses “Emotionally Focused Therapy”, how to save your marriage when your spouse doesn’t want to,  reaping and sowing,  sending your questions to Mark via video for the next series of Love, Marriage and Stinking Thinking, what age is appropriate to start individual dating or “group” dating, the over-sexualized culture that kids are growing up in today, advice for  military couples who are separated by deployment, soft/relational people vs. hard/results type people, unfair fighting, and not allowing small frustrations to ruin your marriage.

Mark and Debbie open the e-mail bag and address the problems with unilateral divorce, inter-racial couples, and how to raise a manly man. The 2 have a discussion about parents coming in and out of their child’s life after divorce and what the bible means by ‘honor.’

An e-mail from a wife is read detailing the abuse that she faces and what to do after 40 years of marriage. Mark explains what the bible means by submission, and the importance of forgiveness, fighting fair and using conditions at the beginning of a relationship.  Mark also comments on the idea, ” I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”

Mark explains the importance of using wisdom and advice to make a decision isnt of always using spirituality. He also talks about loving your spouse through financial troubles, the idea that ‘marriage is just a piece of paper,’ and what to do when your marriage is beyond repair.

Then Mark and Debbie get to some interesting new e-mail’s dealing with one man’s struggle with his wife, who rejects his prayers of healing, and another e-mail dealing with a spouse’s low self-esteem, mood swings and the effect it has on their marriage.

Mark also spends some time going over the importance of the dating process and how to do it right.

Mark and Debbie jump into e-mails and address dating, giving your friends ‘veto’ power, the importance of trust in a relationship and the role appearance plays at the beginning of a relationship.

As the show continues, Mark addresses what to do with a seriously narcissistic spouse, making sure that your priorities are straight and what submission really means.

Later on the show, Mark and Debbie discuss step-families, dating, focusing on your children and God and not another relationship after divorce. Mark also touches on Christians watching rated R movies, media influences and the real reasons for divorce.

After the study Mark and Debbie discuss how to fight fair and what happens when women try to get men to act like a woman. Mark also addresses an e-mail with questions about the recent increase in pastors leaving churches and the pressures church leaders face. Mark also goes after people who claim to be Christians but knowingly defy God.

Mark and Debbie continue the show with an e-mail about the importance of a male role model in the home and wanting to date after a divorce, but before the kids are out of the house. Then Mark goes after a young couple that is struggling to remain sexually pure, a young man with a porn addiction, and the misguided advice that many Christian counselors give.

Mark and Debbie analyze the role society, the church and mothers play in feminizing men. Mark explains the harm in letting your feelings guide your behavior, and how important it is for a man to act like a man. Mark and Debbie also address supporting your spouses dreams, what to do when one spouse gains a lot of weight and the issue of oral sex.

Below is a picture of Mark and his wife Debbie in Florida.

On today’s show Mark discusses teens and birth control, dealing with a spouse who is the opposite of you, dealing with the aftermath of an affair, praying for God to get a hold of your teens, generational sin, how to train up your children, and multiple marriages.

A lively show today from Florida, Mark addresses e-mails regarding conditions and consequences in marriage, what happens when we deceive ourselves to justify bad behavior, the power of prayer to save a struggling marriage, and rekindling your relationship with an ex-husband or wife.

On the show today, Mark and Debbie talk about the risk Christian’s take when their faith is challenged and they remain quiet, how to match your spouse’s sex drive, the difference ‘climbing the palm tree’ can make in a marriage and sex after pregnancy.

A new listener noticed that Mark’s Buttercup picture looked like someone else….

Carol Channing

The ‘Buttercup’ picture Mark and Debbie mentioned on the show

A few others that I’m sure Mark wouldn’t mind sharing

The popular clip Mark played on Friday’s show.

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On today’s show Mark discusses how to help your children and family if you have made the wrong choices and bad decisions in the past,  the principle of sowing and reaping, the balance between works and faith, when women avoid sex and how to discuss issues without making your spouse feel like a failure.